Co-parenting after a divorce

Co-parenting after a divorce

Make Co-parenting after a divorce or separation a success

Co-parenting after a divorce or separation can be very difficult. Just recognizing and accepting that you may need to co-parent with your ex is challenging on its own. However, the sooner you realize the importance of co-parenting after a divorce or separation the more you can focus on the well-being of your children. In this article you will get easy to apply and practical tips to make co-parenting with your ex a success even after an emotional divorce or separation.

Have a parenting plan

A parenting plan is very useful. It will help you establish guidelines both of you can follow when it comes to co-parenting. A parenting plan will delegate responsibility to each parent and will clarify goals and expectations of each party. Thus, it is a great idea to have a professional help you draft a parenting plan parenting plan so you can make co-parenting after a divorce or separation a success.

Communicate in writing

Communication in writing can be a good idea in high conflict family law matters since it will reduce the emotional tension of a phone or in person conversation. Instead of calling the other parent you may want to send an email or text message. This will help lower conflict so you can focus on what the well-being of your children.

Use apps designed for co-parenting

Apps or programs designed for co-parenting can be useful since it keeps a record of the communication. This record may be used in court and be viewed by the attorneys and the judge. Thus, parties will likely be on their best behavior knowing that their communication will be read and scrutinized.  



Take a co-parenting class

Sometimes if parties cannot co-parent the court might order them to take co-parenting classes. However, you do not have to wait for a court order to take these classes. Co-parenting classes are extremely useful. You can gain valuable information that will help you in raising your children for years to come. So, consider taking these classes even if not ordered by the court.

Be respectful

In a divorce or separation there is a lot of animosity. Emotions are high and each party might have things they want to say. It is easy to lose control and say something disrespectful. However, keep in mind that co-parenting is not about you but instead it is about your child or children. Simply being respectful can go along way to reduce tension so both of you can focus on the well-being of your child.

Know your goal

Remain aware that your goal with co-parenting is to raise another human who can be a valuable member of the society. Always keep this in mind. Your child or children has and should live in a peaceful and loving environment and not an environment full unnecessary conflict.


Your child or children deserve to live in peace. In most cases, courts require parents to co-parent. In doing so consider drafting a parenting plan and incorporating some of the tips discussed in this article. Doing so will help you create a more peaceful life for your child or children.

Do I have to pay in child support?

Do I have to pay in child support?



The family court has the authority to order either or both parents to pay child support in any amount necessary for the support of the minor child. In this article, you will learn how child support is calculated along with ramifications for failure to pay child support if you are ordered to do so.

Guideline Child Support

Courts and lawyers use a calculator to come up with a guideline child support amount. The most important factors in calculating the child support amount are: (1) disposable income of each parent, (2) percentage of physical custody allocated to each parent and (3) the number of children. For example, a parent with 20% physical will and a high amount of disposable income will likely have to pay a significant amount in child support. 

Deviation From Guideline Child Support

Judges have broad discretion to either reduce or increase the guideline child support amount so long as doing so is consistent with the best interest of the child. For example, if the child is accustomed to a certain lifestyle the judge can order the noncustodial parent to pay more. Conversely if the guidelines child support amount seems excessive the judge can determine that the amount needs to be reduced.

Child Support Agreements

The law does not allow parents to waive the power of the court to order child support belongs to the child and not the parents. However, parents can agree to an amount that is either higher or lower than the guideline amount. Unless such agreement is detrimental to the child, the court is likely to approve such an agreement. However, the court will retain jurisdiction to modify or change the amount later.

Failure To Pay Child Support

Child support obligations cannot be waived by anyone except a judge. If a parent is not paying his or her child support obligation the other party may enforce the order years later. In other words, there are no statutes of limitation. Failure to pay child support can result in wage garnishment, revocation of driver’s licenses or professional license and/or even jail time. So, if you owe back child support, it is important to talk to a lawyer as soon as possible.


Because child support calculation is affected by custody arrangement and the income of the parties, it is important to talk to a family law attorney if child support is likely to become an issue in your case. A family law attorney can help you achieve your goals whether your goal is to collect child support or reduce