Make co-parenting after a divorce or separation a success

Co-parenting after a divorce or separation can be very difficult. Just recognizing and accepting that you may need to co-parent with your ex is challenging on its own. However, the sooner you realize the importance of co-parenting after a divorce or separation the more you can focus on the well-being of your children. In this article you will get easy and practical tips on how to make co-parenting with your ex a success even after an emotional divorce or separation.

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Have a parenting plan

A parenting plan is very useful. It will help you establish guidelines both of you can follow when it comes to co-parenting. A parenting plan will delegate responsibility to each parent and will clarify goals and expectations of each party. Thus, it is a great idea to have a professional help you draft a parenting plan parenting plan so you can make co-parenting after a divorce or separation a success.

Communicate in writing

Communication in writing can be a good idea in high conflict family law matters since it will reduce the emotional tension of a phone or in person conversation. Instead of calling the other parent you may want to send an email or text message. This will help lower conflict so you can focus on what the well-being of your children.

Use apps designed for co-parenting

Apps or programs designed for co-parenting can be useful since it keeps a record of the communication. This record may be used in court and be viewed by the attorneys and the judge. Thus, parties will likely be on their best behavior knowing that their communication will be read and scrutinized.


Take a co-parenting class

Sometimes if parties cannot co-parent the court might order them to take co-parenting classes. However, you do not have to wait for a court order to take these classes. Co-parenting classes are extremely useful. You can gain valuable information that will help you in raising your children for years to come. So, consider taking these classes even if not ordered by the court.

Be respectful

In a divorce or separation there is a lot of animosity. Emotions are high and each party might have things they want to say. It is easy to lose control and say something disrespectful. However, keep in mind that co-parenting is not about you but instead it is about your child or children. Simply being respectful can go a long way to reduce tension so both of you can focus on the well-being of your child.

Know your goal

Remain aware that your goal with co-parenting is to raise another human who can be a valuable member of society. Always keep this in mind. Your child has the right to live in a peaceful and loving environment without unnecessary conflict, stress, or anxiety. So, remember it is about the child.


Your child or children deserve to live in peace. In most cases, courts require parents to co-parent. In doing so consider drafting a parenting plan and incorporating some of the tips discussed in this article. Doing so will help you create a more peaceful life for your child or children.

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